Monthly Archives: March 2013

some food for thought

(and no its not roast beef chopped up really fine and mixed with ricotta cheese, which Jo GOBBLED down at daycare today…. um ew)

I don’t have a whole lot new or interesting to contribute to the this week of SCOTUS madness, but someone posted this here link on FB today and its got me thinking about our emphasis on marriage as the ” the most important relation in life” in the fight against the crazy “family values” agenda ( ” that includes abstinence-only sex education, stringent divorce laws, coercive marriage promotion policies directed toward women on welfare, and attacks on reproductive freedom”). Let me be clear…I think everyone should be able to get married, but married families are not more important that unmarried families….

(below is directly quoted from…)

Marriage is not the only worthy form of family or relationship, and it should not be legally and economically privileged above all others. A majority of people – whatever their sexual and gender identities – do not live in traditional nuclear families. They stand to gain from alternative forms of household recognition beyond one-size-fits-all marriage. For example:

·     Single parent households

·     Senior citizens living together and serving as each other’s caregivers (think Golden Girls)

·     Blended and extended families

·     Children being raised in multiple households or by unmarried parents

·     Adult children living with and caring for their parents

·     Senior citizens who are the primary caregivers to their grandchildren or other relatives

·     Close friends or siblings living in non-conjugal relationships and serving as each other’s primary support and caregivers

·     Households in which there is more than one conjugal partner

·     Care-giving relationships that provide support to those living with extended illness such as HIV/AIDS.

okay also this is hilarious…

Keagen: Mr. Cooper, could I just understand your argument. In reading the briefs, it seems as though your principal argument is that same-sex and opposite — opposite-sex couples are not similarly situated because opposite-sex couples can procreate, same-sex couples cannot, and the State’s principal interest in marriage is in regulating procreation. Is that basically correct?

Cooper: I — Your Honor, that’s the essential thrust of our — our position, yes



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break out the turtlenecks

(hey i wrote this yesterday! i thought i posted it!)


baby-free staycation/ weaning extravaganza 2013 is drawing to a close. it has been an insanely relaxing weekend at the tail end of a very relaxing (and even somewhat productive) spring break. there has been sleeping until 8:30 (!!!) lying around, sushi, watching cable, a beer shower, yoga, and yeah, putting cold cabbage leaves on my breasts… which was soo cold!! but definately helped with the swelling, there is a lot of that going on. ow.  emotionally, i am feeling pretty great, only a little weepy  and really missing my babe (okay i did watch a slide show of every picture of jolene that i possess) but very happy and at peace with stopping nursing. okay. ecstatic. it has been wonderful but it was really time. mamababy reunion is happening in the next 15 minutes when yaya comes and gets me and we all go to the art museum!

feeling very privileged and thankful to have had this nugget of time to myself, for my own mum taking j for the weekend, for this whole week of no work/school outside the home… vacation isn’t something everyone gets, so i’m feeling very grateful today. plus i get to see my baby! and its going to be 50 on wednesday!

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look what my baby can do!!!!!!

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March 19, 2013 · 5:59 pm

CLPP 2013


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March 19, 2013 · 5:54 pm

shaming teen parents

sweet! someone is doing something about the disgusting teen pregnancy “prevention” campaign in NYC! the New York Coalition for Reproductive Justice has launched a counter campaign called “No Stigma! No Shame!” and is calling for all of the ads to be removed, an apology from the New York City Human Resource Administration AND best of all for a “Creation of a Teen Parent Council within HRA, composed of teen parents and their advocates, to approve any future messaging around teen pregnancy prevention.” it is time that the voices of teen parents and the children of teen parents are heard in the national conversation on teen pregnancy and supporting young parents… who else really would you ask? i just did a lot of linking around and found Pushback, a sweet blog run by Massachusetts Alliance on Teen Pregnancy about actual lived experiences of young parents.

oh the things you can do when you’re zero exams, zero papers and just one class period away from spring break!!!

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March 13, 2013 · 8:04 pm

some stuff that happened today

-it almost felt a little like spring for the third day in a row! i should have known that sandals were overkill, but i can’t help it my feet need to see the sun….

-i stayed up until like 1:30 talking on the phone (okay daylight savings time) but STILL, when was the last time i did that? like 10th grade? 

-my paper isn’t as good as it should be, i have studied enough for my midterm, i haven’t written for creative writing yet but GODDAMNIT i’m going to have a vacation next week so at this point its FULL SPEED AHEAD 

– i saw this amazing man speak tonight.  got me thinking about writing the crazy professionalization of the arts in our culture/generational moment and how for ambitious young artists there is such a push to publish and produce and make a living from your art when…that can be such a hindrance to actually making said art. i want to think more about this. 

– jolene ate snack with the toddlers at daycare today, like in a big kid chair (bigger kid chair). here are some more crazy things she is doing these days: STANDING BY HERSELF! signing more (totally out of the blue and im like Jolene… more what? just… more!) blowing kisses oh the kisses! flushing the toilet (i am pushing this one), trying to climb behind the wood stove every second i’m not looking, throwing tantrums (this one is crazy… i’m learning to ride them out)… 

-what else about jolene because i know thats all you boogers care about… the hunger strike has ended! i noticed jolene cuddling with a bottle of lotion (and sucking the dried lotion off the spout bleh) so i swapped it out for a little stuffed monkey she has and she took it down to lunch with her. she was throwing her food at lunch, like ALWAYS and i pretended to feed a little to her monkey and she got SO INTO it and was feeding the monkey and eating! apples! SHE WAS EATING APPLES! i was jumping up and down. i think i have lost all concept of what constitutes a good story…. 

-i dont feel like writing sorry! 

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