Monthly Archives: February 2013

Where Were White Feminists Speaking Out For Quvenzhané Wallis?


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February 28, 2013 · 3:41 pm



SO a haircut has been in the works for a while. On Wednesday Jolene’s teacher put her hair in pigtails to keep it out of her eyes… I got the hint. I put a smock on Jolene, plopped her down on a towel with a jar of q tips (distraction, she never gets to play with them) and hacked away. Okay I knew i needed sharp scissors (I have had a number of botched home haircuts) but I had none, so I used dull ones. Yeah. Don’t do that. Sharp sissors. Patience. And maybe another big head to hold the babe. Despite the crookedness, I kind of love it.



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picky picky

here is something. a list of foods Jolene was eating 7 months ago 

-bok choy


-red pepper


-oranges & grapefruits


here is a list of foods Jolene is eating now (Feb 2013)

-cream cheese (FAVORITE)

-peanut butter

– rice cakes





-…thats it.

i have always thought that “picky eaters” are made, not born. is this a phase? will she ever eat non white/brown foods again? HAVE I RUINED MY FOODIE CHILD???? should i stop projecting my identity as a vegetable lover onto her? should i simply spray her vegetables with sugar?

oh boy.

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I realize that its a little late to be talking about the two feet of snow that was dumped on New England last weekend, but due to being caught up on my school work, I am behind on most everything else. Aside from laundry, cloth diapers, making a grocery shopping list for today, cleaning out my car (no its really bad), changing my sheets, getting outside, getting out of my pjs, it turns out that ALL OF THE BANDS put out an album last year. I’m listening to Tallest Man on Earth  right now and man is it good.

Today is my home day with Beanie. Its either a getting shit done day or a spending time with my daughter day or a go grocery shopping at some point and spend all of the rest of your time trying to do nothing. And spend time with Beanie but I gotta confess, I am relating to this post from Blue Milk . Parenting is sometimes really boring and yes even when I spend four out of five week days at school, the one day at home can feel so boring in comparison. I try to have at least a half hour during the day where I don’t try to get anything done, don’t have the radio on, and am just on the floor with Beanie playing. She is getting to this great age where she wants to help me do chores. The other day she helped me hand up her diapers on the drying rack (and I don’t mean pretend helped like actually helped).  And for a baby, that is just as fun and stimulating as banging blocks on the floor.

But! The snow storm! School was canceled for both of us on Friday and we stayed inside and were cozy. Lots of rice pudding was made. We finally ventured out on Saturday afternoon for a walk.


What didn’t happen was a romp in the snow. I realized that none of Jolene’s snowsuits are actually waterproof because I had honestly NO IDEA what to buy her for the winter. So put that on your list, baby havers.


my mom standing in the snow


behind my house

I did pick on up for at Goodwill on Sunday, so the snow frolicking will have to happen soon.


And Happy Valentines Day! (or “Breeders Day” as someone said on my fb feed this morning) I have made up a tradition of sending out Valentines, which will probably happen sometime next week. I’m behind, remember?



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You know that thing when

…you have a baby and you’re so busy you don’t even realize your favorite band puts out the new album you’ve been desperately craving and then a year later you discover it and its everything you wanted it to be? Yeah, I like that.

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Super bowl rant (sorry)

So. First off, a confession. I don’t really watch sports. I don’t really watch lots of cable TV with lots of advertisements. I watch TV on hulu but of late I have been trying to cut that down. It has gotten generally (with some exceptions) boring and predictable as a person who likes to make art, maybe I should spend more time creating entertainment instead of consuming it (not like I am going to stop watching anything I haven’t made all together, but I really should stop watching The Office. it has gotten so very bad). 

So maybe what I am about to write is just some old fart backward thinking crazy talk but I have been watching a little bit of the Super Bowl tonight and I am kind of freaked out by the intense sexualization women and the altogether pornification of American culture at the halftime show and during advertisements (because lets be honest, there are no women on the football field at the superbowl… yet). 

I consider myself to be sex positive. I am not against porn. And women, they can wear whatever they want. I am generally pro skimpy costumes and lace and short skirts and even pole dancing if thats your thing, but how is this suddenly mass culture? Mass culture that is billed as family friendly? I love Beyonce. I love her powerful sexy body, I love her music, I love her dancing, I love her highly managed image (hehe) but there are millions of children watching the Super Bowl and they are forming their ideas about gender roles as I write this. And the juxtaposition of dudes playing football and Beyonce in leather and lace (and absence of images of women playing sports and men dancing in lingerie) says to those children “this is what boys do and this is what girls do.” 

I honestly think that having a daughter really changes how I look at sex in the media, (although perhaps I would feel that same way if I had a son). There is no chance in hell I would let Jolene watch any of this until she is… much older. This is not to deny that children are sexual beings but Beyonce is performing adult sexuality. And that is not for children. Lets let children be children and stop compressing the ages down because at this point in this country your are born a tween. The infant department at Target has neon skinnies and shirts with open backs straight out of the teen department (oh wait thats another rant..). The hypocrisy that our society spoon feeds this shit to children and then turns around and denies them comprehensive sex ed and reproductive rights when they get older is infuriating. I don’t know. Sometimes I think I need to just live in the woods. 

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